It'll set things right in that a lot of people are being lied to. Like, hardcore lied to. The truth probably won't make these people feel better, but if I was in their position, I'd want to know.
Will it hurt someone? I think that's the most important. You need to weigh up the damage versus the need to know the truth, or how much they deserve to know the truth.
*sigh* This is what I'm torn about. It'll probably stun the people who have been lied to, and... probably hurt the person who's been lying all along. But they have been lying all along. Hardcore, unnecessary, pretty much creepily lying. For years. So, arg.
Maybe confront the person who's been doing the lying? Try to convince them to own up to it themselves, rather than have you do it and make them look even worse?
I personally think people deserve to know when they're being lied to. A lot of people would say it isn't your place. It depends how close you are to these other people and whether you think they'd want to know - if they eventually find out and know that you knew, they might never forgive you for not telling them. At the same time, some people prefer to live in the dark because it's easier. It depends whether it's something that'll rock their worlds, or just eventually make them better. In the end it's only a decision that you can make, as you're the only one who knows the full circumstances. :/
I'm not close to most of the other people, but if someone knew the truth about something like this and didn't say anything, I'd feel totally betrayed that they hadn't told people. But I don't know.
I didn't answer the poll because there you didn't have a sometimes button. :P It really depends upon the situation, and believe me, I have stories. Generally, speaking, though, I'd say no, especially if it's none of my business. Sometimes even if it is my business.
So, one time, in eighth grade, Lauren fell in love with Anthony. And I used to be in love with Anthony. And then over the summer Anthony told me he really liked me. But Lauren was my BFF. So I didn't know what to do. So I told Lauren. And it sucked, big time, because I ended up hurting her. But if anything would have come of me/Anthony (which it wouldn't've, for various reasons including Lauren), I wouldn't want to have said "I've been hiding this for awhile" or something. She was my friend, and she had the right to know, I guess.
In THIS INSTANCE, it's very tricky, because of what you know and how you know it. I think you should confront the liar on some sort of personal basis (private LJ entry? LJ message?) and just ask what's up -- because the way you (and others) are being lied to, it isn't fair/right.
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Date: 2007-10-08 08:18 pm (UTC)Will revealing the truth set something right?
Will revealing the truth make those involved feel better or worse?
A year from now, how would you feel about the fact that this remains secret?
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Date: 2007-10-09 12:12 am (UTC)In THIS INSTANCE, it's very tricky, because of what you know and how you know it. I think you should confront the liar on some sort of personal basis (private LJ entry? LJ message?) and just ask what's up -- because the way you (and others) are being lied to, it isn't fair/right.
My icon is beautifully appropriate.
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